Aparigraha: the idea of non-grasping and non-possessiveness, is one of the five yamas in the eight limbs of yoga [Look it up]. This concept, when actually followed, can help us to detach from strong feelings and actions that do not necessarily "serve us" in our daily lives. For the sake of this post, I am relating Aparigraha (or lack thereof in my case) to expectations and mindsets that keep me stuck.
Attachment, grasping, not letting go...these are things I tend to struggle with on occasion. Instead of just allowing things to happen, I tend to prematurely form opinions and have my mind made up about how things are going to go, how I am going to react, and coming up with "plan of action" for when/if shit hits the fan.
It sucks. I have been thinking a lot lately about how life doesn’t really leave much room for definite thoughts and plans. No matter what you think or expect, there is likely going to be a curve ball thrown at you at some point, throwing you off, freaking you out, or even setting you back in your goals.
Expectations can easily leave us with a clouded perception of what should be... and when things don’t go as planned it is easy to get discouraged.
As humans, we easily become attached to feelings, both good and bad. Sure, it's great to be able to experience these feelings, but when we hold on to them so tightly, we don’t allow ourselves to truly be in the moment and experience what is really going on around us.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just slow down for a bit, mentally and physically, and just allow life to happen? What if we took a step back and realized that so much of what we obsessively worry about and hold onto doesn’t really matter at all in the big scheme of things?
The only thing that we CAN expect to happen in life is Change.
Change is constant in life, therefore strongly holding on to expectations is a waste of time. Moving forward in life, and working towards achieving my personal goals, practicing Aparigraha (non-grasping, non-attachment) is going to be extremely important. Allowing myself to accept life as it comes at me and not holding on to preconceived notions and expectations will only keep me moving forward on my journey.
I challenge you to do the same.